When your loved one is not a runner

For us runners, it sometimes seems like everybody has been bitten by the running bug.  So much so that we often hear stories of people meeting in the trails, falling in love and then running together.  These are the lucky ones.  But what about those who share love but not necessarily the outdoors sports passion?

Is your partner indifferent to your insistence on the benefits of running?  Do you feel guilty when you train and do not spend time with your loved one?  It doesn’t have to be like that.  Actually, having separate interests can enhance your relationship as long as you make some simple adjustments to your routine.


Here are some tips to minimize the impact of your running in your marriage and to find balance between work, family, training, and other responsibilities. 

•    Adapt or die.  Train in the time slots when you are inevitable apart from your other half. Is your partner practicing other sports, going out with work colleagues or running errands?  It shouldn’t be too hard to find hours to get your training done.  Another option is to get up earlier.  In which case, keep your clock alarm discreet so you do not disturb your significant other’s sleeping next to you.

•    Communicate.  Share your excitement.  You don’t run the same route or at the same pace every day.  Sometimes you feel energetic, while other you feel dead tired.  You might talk about the memorable sunrise of that morning, someone you ran into or the bizarre things you encountered on the trails.  Communication is the key.


•    Take your spouse along.  Invite your partner to join you for a walk and refrain from running.  Just walk.  Walking is an often underestimated activity that may be good for runners once in a while.  At a different pace, you’ll appreciate other details. 

•    Stay attractive.  Change your workout clothes as soon as you get back home.  Take a shower after your sweat session and get dressed. 

•    Keep it tidy.  Find a place for your running shoes and gadgets.  Do not invade other people’s space.

•    Show that you care.  Take your loved one to shop and ask for their opinion.  Obviously your other half has an excellent taste and will be able to help you choose the outfit that fits you best.


•    Win-win.  If your spouse drives you to the race start, invite to dinner.  Let your loved one be your crew and biggest fan.  It might sound cheesy, but why not hang your finisher medal around his/her neck.  Your partner will feel needed and important. 

•    “Runcation” (run + vacation).  Enjoy new countries and destinations.  Book your next vacation combining a race or training camp with amazing tours and activities.  All Run and Tour packages welcome non-runners.